(CNN) Recently, I wrote a piece about how classic movies we once loved can disappoint us in hindsight. As a critic, I get lots of feedback, especially when writing about films with a high nostalgia factor. But I was unprepared for the passionate, personal nature of the messages readers sent (and nary a slur among them: Kudos, CNN.com readers!). They came from both women and men, with many telling me they were relieved to see someone saying out loud what they’d long believed. Some offered the grim revelation that their own lives had mirrored these romantic movie tropes — at their peril.